What Do Women Really Want?

What Do Women Want?Here is something that every guy wonders about, whether it’s with their girlfriend, their wives or even with their first date. There are numerous numbers of sources out there where you can get your information: websites, magazines and the simple advices your friends tell you.


Because of these numerous and differing sources, things can really get confusing, especially in the modern age where women are more empowered. They are independent, and can take care of themselves. So where does that leave the men? How can we know what women really want?

The truth is that women love to be pampered. They love to be taken care of. But, at the same time, they also want to be independent. Women want a guy who is sensitive, who knows when to be there for them and when to give them space to do what they want. Still confused? Don’t be, it’s much easier than it sounds.

Holding Hands

Whether we’re talking about a woman who looks classically feminine, or someone who is more modern and independent, their desires share the same thing, and that is to be the center of your world.

First, let’s explore the basics. We, as men, should know that women love to communicate. Notice that I’m saying “communicate”, and not “talk”. It’s not about sprouting out a thousand words a minute. Rather, it’s about knowing and sharing your opinions, your interests. Such things can include the humble happenings of your day. Now, we must be reminded that this is a two way street, which means that you also have to find out about your partner’s day. First you talk, and now you listen. Act accordingly.

This process is a matter of time. Remember, you take out time to find out about your partner through communication. So what happens now is that you have to spend time with her. She should be an integral part of your daily life. If you’re at work, take time out periodically to give her a call and say hello. Spend time with her when you get home. But remember, there is a fine line from smothering and caring. You should still have your own life. Never abandon doing the things that you love. Though it’s true that she needs to know that she’s the center of your world, you also need her to miss you every so often. And remember, a woman loves the complete package, which is someone who is caring, protective, supportive AND has a lot of things going for them. They want someone who is the center of other people’s attention. Bear in mind, all of what I’ve talked so far revolves around the feeling of being loved, and everyone loves to be wanted.

Gift-Giving

The next is obviously the gifts. Women love gifts, whether it’s little tokens of appreciation, flowers or even chocolates. Well, for that matter, everybody loves gifts don’t they? Women are slightly harder to gauge. They will always say that they love something, unless you have done something terrible. But, in the case where you’re in the safe zone, or even in a bit of a tough zone, you should know what kind of gifts your woman likes.

You will know this through the communication and time you spend with her. Not all women love red roses. Some like lilies, others love daffodils, while the rest could be into sunflowers; we all have different tastes. The same thing goes with chocolates. Some love dark chocolate, others white chocolate. Some love expensive truffles, while others like mainstream milk chocolate. Tokens of appreciation are more specific in a way that they should be based on their personality and something they love. You can give a girl a stuffed bear, even a slinky one, if that’s what she like.

Remember, not all women are the same. You need to spend time and have a two-way communication with your partner to really know what she wants.

Do These then Shoot Yourself: Flower-Giving Booboos

On more than one occasion, I mentioned that flowers are perfect for any occasion. While that still holds true, there are other little-known occasions when giving flowers are unwarranted.


Suffice to say, there are exceptions to every rule. And to every exception, you need a back-up plan to make the rule work for you and not against you.
Here are those exceptions and the things you should do before you make a huge mess of yourself.

Go to philippineflowermart.com1. On a first date – Clearly, this one goes out for men. If you’re trying to woo a woman and you’ve finally had the guts to ask her out, giving flowers on a first date seldom makes any difference whether she’s going to see you again or not. Some people say that a woman first has to earn it while others say it doesn’t really matter. Whatever your opinion may be, prepare for the unexpected. I know it sounds totally unromantic, but hey let’s face it: you don’t have control over your date.

If you do decide to give flowers, make sure to give it to your date when you pick her up. Not in the car or at the restaurant. This way, she doesn’t have to take along the bouquet with her wherever she goes. Makes sense?

2. After a breakup – Again, this goes out to the guys. How many men have men attempted to make women they broke up with feel better by giving flowers? When you break up with someone, you don’t expect the other person to feel instantly better once you give her flowers. On the contrary, it’s going to make her feel much worse. It’s like you’re bribing her feelings—to mask her sadness (or scorn).

If you want to make someone feel better, leave your ex out of the picture. She’ll never feel happy about the break up anyway (unless she’s been secretly wanting to cut the strings for a long time). However, if you do want to get back with her, that’s when a charming bouquet of flowers is appropriate to show you’re sorry.

Go to philippineflowermart.com3. When you want to win a man – In the movies, we see girls who want to get the attention of boys they want send themselves flowers secretly. This supposedly makes the other guy jealous or more interested. Nothing else spells D-E-S-P-E-R-A-T-E better than this.

If you’re going to buy yourself flowers, do it because you appreciate the aesthetic arrangement of the blooms and not to impress anyone else. Or better yet, do it because you want to prettify your home, so that YOU can enjoy it.

4. When you want a promotion – Sucking up to your boss won’t make your paycheck fatter and your job title fancier. That will just make the obvious even more apparent. If you want to be promoted, work your way up the ladder. Giving flowers to your boss at a time when you are about to ask for a raise is just way too distasteful. Makes you look like a toady.

But if you must send a floral arrangement to your workplace, do it when an occasion calls for it (like a company celebration perhaps). That way, you don’t have to run the risk of being called a sycophant.

Flowers can make anyone’s day, but they can also ruin it depending on the reason behind the giving. So if you plan to send flowers, find out first what your true motive is. If you don’t know what flowers to send, check out online flower stores for ideas.

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